Are We Sure We Know Who The Victim Is?

This is my final thought on my female abuse series which I started last week beginning with I hear rapists love mini skirts, followed by Park and chop kiss
Today I conclude by looking at the Ghana Football Association (GFA) Isaac Addo, the acting FA General Secretary, and Nanabanyin Eyison, a member of the GFA’s Executive Committee and also chairman of the management committee of the national female Under-20 team, ban for sexual harrasment by FIFA.
Media covering the story said that ban is as a result of remarks the two passed comments about a female laison. Check out the details of the story here.
After reading the story I am highly concerned about the whether the GFA officials are being wrongly accused. 
In addressing this two things catch my attention. The seriousness attached the sexual harassment in Papua New Guinea compared to Ghana and possibility of punishing someone for something they didn’t do.
Sexual Harassment in Papua New Guinea
A quick internet search on this topic will reveal shocking results. Papua New Guinea is apparently perceived as the worst place in the world for gender violence. So you can imagine why their sexual harassment laws are stringent.
I guess it is only natural that it is so but it begs the question, should sexual harrassment laws be stringent all over or only in the countries that are known to have cases of sexual harrassment?
I believe that the law should be the same regardless of what opinions are. People should be sensitive towards others and know that their actions may cause discomfort in a manner that is really disturbing.
Unfortunately this message is not echoed enough and leads to us as individuals taking it for granted and not having a unified voice to fight myths about sexual harrassment and abuse. This leads to assumptions on the issue and makes the issue worse.
I didn’t do it
In the GFA officials case, the story being told by the officials makes it seem as if they are victims of miscommunication. It sounds as if the laison misinterpreted their communication as part of what they said was in a local Ghanaian dialect.
As I read this I thought to myself how do we tell who the real victim is? Without evidence its my word against yours. We sometimes tend to sympathize with the one who is abused and harrassd due to their plight absent of the possibility that there may be more than meets the eye. 
There are a few cases of people who have been wrongly convicted for abuse and harrassment due to failure by the bodies responsible to judge fairly.
It may sound like a pretty insensitive thing to do but I believe every harassment or abuse case must look at both sides of the story very carefully to seek the truth. Without the truth its difficult to understand the details of the story. 
Its not always about who is to blame or arresting or punishment. In my opinion every harassment or abuse case is an unfortunate opportunity to understand what causes these incidents. This helps in knowing how best to deal with the issue to prevent future incidents.
In conclusion we must all do more to understand the issues surrounding abuse and harrassment. It happens to both sexes and is surrounded by a lot of assumptions. Lets educate ourselves to aid the future generation in mitigating these incidents and make the world a better place.
Keep it One HONDRED!

Park and Chop Kiss

Shatta Wale’s song “Chop Kiss” comes to mind when I think of this unfortunate incident. It won’t surprise me if it was on the mind of the policeman that decided to kiss a female driver of whom he had never met before one evening whilst on duty.

My reaction to the policeman's kiss
My reaction to the policeman’s kiss
 
Now if your facial reaction to my opening paragraph turns your face into my illustrated reaction in the picture or something worse, you join many people around the world who felt the same way on twitter when the victim tweeted the incident.
This is the second article relating to the recent abuse on women in Ghana. The previous article dealt with the Minister for Gender’s comments on rape you can check that out here
Tweets from victim

The pictures above detail the tweets by the victim on twitter. In summary she was stopped by the police whilst driving home for a routine security check. The policeman asked her to step out of the car and proceeded to kiss her on the lips. She questioned why he did that of which he responded saying, “I don’t know”. She then sat in her car and proceeded to find a police station to report the incident. Unfortunately finding a police station to take her seriously was more difficult than expected. One station even laughed at the issue.
Fortunately an investigator has been put on the case and the policeman responsible has been identified and he has pleaded guilty.
My Thoughts
Such disgraceful conduct by police should not be tolerated. Police are to protect and serve the citizens of Ghana, so how does a routine security check enable a policeman to stain the honour of the police institution (that is already questionable) by stealing a kiss from a woman? 
What sickens me however is not the kiss deprived policemans actions but that of his colleagues who probably do not know him in other stations. How can you laugh at such an issue or ask the victim to forgive the guy?
I am a Christian and as much as I am all for forgiving, it doesn’t mean that his wrong should go without punishment. The culprit and the police who failed to take this seriously are simply not fit to serve on the police force. 
Security in our nation that has enjoyed peace for all these years is not a matter to be flirted with. We as citizens are to be able to trust the police to enable them carry out their duties. Such repugnant behavior by the police does not encourage Ghanaians to begin trusting them with issues. 
I mean if this incident attracted laughter then what of sexual assault, rape or other crimes that involve men abusing women?
This is how some staff of the police of Ghana treat such an incident. Though it is not the whole police force, it does present us a nation with a view of how abuse of women is dealt with. In my view this needs to change and not only for the police force but all public institutions and the people of Ghana. Women are human beings lets take their issues seriously and curb such acts that are disgraceful to the honor of men.
Keep it One HONDRED!

There is a Trump in all of us

I don’t know about you but sometimes when the world blames a person or a people for something bad, I kind of feel that my country people will behave differently. I figured that even if the general public disappoints, those in my circles will surely bail me out.
Boy was I wrong!
Last Saturday whilst surfing twitter for juicy content to contribute towards, I stumbled upon a tweet about a Lebanese supervisor in the Ghanaian restaurant Marwarko, dipping the head of a female staff in a bowl of blended peppers.
I was horrified and quickly looked into the details of the tweet to verify the authenticity of the story. The tweet was true and quickly spiraled into a trending topic with the hashtag #BoycottMarwako.
I was unhappy about the whole incident but more disappointed with the direction being taken on social media by some Ghanaians. It was here that I realized the Trump qualities of banning or getting rid of specific people resided not only in America but in Ghana as well.
I hate feeling that my colour, race or nationality brands me as a certain kind of person, usually with a negative context to others of a different background. So when my country men behave the same, I get disappointed because I thought they should know better. 
After all that we went through to gain our independence and the discrimination we sometimes face when we go abroad, I expect us to be more understanding in an effort to spark a change in this stereotype nonsense of which I believe Trump brought to prominence, that the world is all of a sudden gung-ho about.
I got rid of that Trump gene a long time ago and I guess people are still holding on to theirs.
This is social media anyway so I guess people are just being expressive but this unfortunate incident has seen the rise of a petition that wants the culprit not only prosecuted, but deported with the restaurant also closed down. (What a Trump move)
In my personal opinion the closing down of the establishment is uncalled for especially when there is no evidence suggesting the business is also involved in such abuse.
All of a sudden, this poor action on the part of one man has managed to support the stereotype that Lebanese business owners abuse their staff and thus should have their business closed down. 
Though there may be some truth to this stereotype, the incident is not about Lebanese bosses and their Ghanaian staff. It is about a superiors poor conduct with a staff member which as a Twitter user put is something that is akin to not only Lebanese superiors and their subordinates but everyone in the world.
In fact many Ghanaians have heard stories of Ghanaian women from all walks of life treating house helps or maids in similar or worse conditions. In these cases, the matter was either forgotten and never resulted in a petition. That however does not justify their actions but rather puts them in the same boat as this Lebanese culprit. 
So clearly there is some kind of double standard here. Do we only get enraged when such abuse ensues between people of different race or nationality? What does that say about our integrity as humans? If you ask me it just makes us Ghanaians sound just like Donald Trump and it’s sad to see that many people all over the world are towing that line.
I was all for the petition but I can’t agree with the terms put up. Why must a business be brought down because of the poor actions of one man who clearly went against the companies policies as reflected in the statement by the restaurant towards the incident. 
Let’s keep it One HONDRED! Let’s ensure this lady gets justice. Let’s not in the process sound as if we are opposed to foreigners. We all know how Ghanaians can’t get enough of them. Let the morality and ethics yardstick however be the same for them. No preferential treatment whatsoever. We are all one people.
You can check out the contents of the petition here 
PETITION CONTENT