Are We Sure We Know Who The Victim Is?

This is my final thought on my female abuse series which I started last week beginning with I hear rapists love mini skirts, followed by Park and chop kiss

Today I conclude by looking at the Ghana Football Association (GFA) Isaac Addo, the acting FA General Secretary, and Nanabanyin Eyison, a member of the GFA’s Executive Committee and also chairman of the management committee of the national female Under-20 team, ban for sexual harrasment by FIFA.

Media covering the story said that ban is as a result of remarks the two passed comments about a female laison. Check out the details of the story here.

After reading the story I am highly concerned about the whether the GFA officials are being wrongly accused. 

In addressing this two things catch my attention. The seriousness attached the sexual harassment in Papua New Guinea compared to Ghana and possibility of punishing someone for something they didn’t do.

Sexual Harassment in Papua New Guinea

A quick internet search on this topic will reveal shocking results. Papua New Guinea is apparently perceived as the worst place in the world for gender violence. So you can imagine why their sexual harassment laws are stringent.

I guess it is only natural that it is so but it begs the question, should sexual harrassment laws be stringent all over or only in the countries that are known to have cases of sexual harrassment?

I believe that the law should be the same regardless of what opinions are. People should be sensitive towards others and know that their actions may cause discomfort in a manner that is really disturbing.

Unfortunately this message is not echoed enough and leads to us as individuals taking it for granted and not having a unified voice to fight myths about sexual harrassment and abuse. This leads to assumptions on the issue and makes the issue worse.

I didn’t do it

In the GFA officials case, the story being told by the officials makes it seem as if they are victims of miscommunication. It sounds as if the laison misinterpreted their communication as part of what they said was in a local Ghanaian dialect.

As I read this I thought to myself how do we tell who the real victim is? Without evidence its my word against yours. We sometimes tend to sympathize with the one who is abused and harrassd due to their plight absent of the possibility that there may be more than meets the eye. 

There are a few cases of people who have been wrongly convicted for abuse and harrassment due to failure by the bodies responsible to judge fairly.

It may sound like a pretty insensitive thing to do but I believe every harassment or abuse case must look at both sides of the story very carefully to seek the truth. Without the truth its difficult to understand the details of the story. 

Its not always about who is to blame or arresting or punishment. In my opinion every harassment or abuse case is an unfortunate opportunity to understand what causes these incidents. This helps in knowing how best to deal with the issue to prevent future incidents.

In conclusion we must all do more to understand the issues surrounding abuse and harrassment. It happens to both sexes and is surrounded by a lot of assumptions. Lets educate ourselves to aid the future generation in mitigating these incidents and make the world a better place.

Keep it One HONDRED!

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